The Case for a Little Self Pity

In a recent article, I referenced a mantra Jungian psychologist Dr. James Hollis uses to get himself moving every day: Shut Up. Suit Up. Show Up.

Lots of folks liked the reminder to stop whining, do what you need to do to take on life, and do the best you can — throw yourself into life.

But, not everyone embraced the mantra, at least not right away.

A close friend of many years, a man of great achievements who is now a retired CEO, had a different take:

“The new physical constraints of aging and chronic medical conditions on my mobility are multiplying faster than my healing abilities. Yes, I have it easier than most, so I don’t share these limitations widely, but some are irrefutable as we re-enter social life. Even when I shut up, some can’t be covered by a new suit…

“As a result, my mental compass headings are changing almost daily. Even volunteering might require making promises I cannot keep in the near future. I am hesitant to engage in new ventures….Just my own reflection, or self pity.”

I gave a lot of thought to my friend’s reply. He knows many of the same self-help mantra’s that are out there that I likewise feed upon when needed.

What I concluded was, the heck with those mantra’s. Go ahead, my friend, take a moment and allow for some self pity in your life. You’ve earned it. Admit it. The health issues that visit us late in life are discouraging. Living in a world of limitations after a life…